The Lady Says...

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Tuesday, July 6, 2010

A Lady Gets Personal

For those who do not know, my husband plays baseball for a living, which means he is gone from February until September. I live in Nashville and he currently lives in Maryland for the season. He is unable to travel back home during the season, so I fly to him each month. Though this is very difficult for us, we make it work. The absence of my other half truly does make our relationship stronger when we do get to see each other, for we really take in those moments and appreciate each others presence. People often ask, "How do you do that? Isn't it lonely?" Yes, it is very lonely, but I surround myself with wonderful people that help me get through the lonely times, and help build me as an individual so that when I do see Brett I am a better person. It is imperative that I grow as a person in all aspects, my work, spiritually, my self confidence, and in my ability to build relationships with others, so that when we do come together I can offer him the best version of myself. It is utterly important that the people I am around are part of this journey to grow so that I never become stagnant or content in the self I am now, but ever wish to become a stronger, wiser, fuller Sierra.

As I build my life here in Nashville I am strong in simply having to have a phone based relationship with my husband and simply hold onto the moments that I have with him each month, but I do believe that the hardest part of being separate is just not having my "person" with me.  The person who I can rely on to understand my jokes, and my stories. The person that can make me feel comfortable, no matter the situation, with just a look or a touch. That is what I miss the most. Those who know me know that I am not a hugger or touchy person, but when I am without my half I realize that this is what I miss most. Holding hands, a hug during the day, the hand on my back when I walk into a new place, just the comfort of knowing someone is there for me.

My thought for you today, with this personal and sappy entry, is to appreciate the people around you. Become someone's "person" so that they may have a brighter more confident day because you are there. Let the people around you know that you care and support them in all that they do and that you will be with them as they grow as an individual. This in turn will only help you to become that better half that you wish to be with your significant other. If we all come together to build each other up we will be rewarded in the most precious way, in love and respect in all of our relationships.

The Husband

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  1. Sierra, I love your blog- it was so great chatting at our little dinner party :) can't wait to get together again soon.

  2. I TOTALLY get this. Several years ago I embarked on an international relationship and ended up marrying my sweetie, who is Australian. We've spent many months apart over these years as we've courted, visited, and waited to visas and such to be approved. I've been away from mu hubby since January and I agree, you miss the hand holding, and with the time difference, you do everything you can to not miss any Skype calls. Luckily his visa interview is next month so he should be here (finally) in a few weeks!

    I feel you and you are so right: we need to appreciate the precious time we have with our loved ones.

    ♥ V

  3. i just teared up a just a little... i am so commend you for your marriage and how amazing of a friend you are..i'm so glad to call you friend!

  4. This is a great post, I've moved to a different country for university and my boyfriend is still in England and we are so glad that skype exists! It's a godsend!!!

    Love you blog!